Weaning Doesn’t Have to Be All or Nothing: How to Find What Works for You
If you’re thinking about weaning—or even just wondering what breastfeeding looks like after the first year—you’re not alone.
We get so many messages that weaning needs to be this big, decisive moment: a set date, a firm plan, a final feed. And sometimes, yes, that kind of structure is needed. Maybe you're returning to work, heading into surgery, or just ready to be done. If that’s the case, we can absolutely help you map out a plan that’s gentle, supportive, and realistic. (Spoiler: cold turkey is not the move. A slow transition over at least a month is ideal, when possible.) Whether you’re weaning for medical reasons, lifestyle changes, or simply your own mental load—it’s okay to set that boundary and move forward with confidence. Weaning doesn’t mean you’re cutting off closeness; you’re just entering a new season of connection.
Letting Weaning Happen Naturally
If you’re not on a deadline, it’s okay to take your time. Weaning doesn’t have to be a rigid process or even have a clear start-and-end date.
Sometimes, it happens slowly—maybe baby starts skipping feeds on their own, or you realize you haven’t nursed in a few days, and it just feels… right. That’s called natural or intuitive weaning, and it’s a valid, beautiful way to close the breastfeeding chapter (whenever that may be). It can feel especially good for families who thrive on connection and rhythm rather than structure and schedules. And sometimes, not having a plan gives you the space to notice when you and your baby are both ready—without pressure or guilt.
There’s no pressure to stop at 12 months—or to continue, if it no longer feels good to you. This journey is yours. And it's totally okay for your feelings about weaning to be mixed, messy, or ever-changing.
What Does Breastfeeding After a Year Look Like?
We get this question a lot—especially from moms who’ve made it past 12 months and aren’t sure what’s next.
Here’s the truth: breastfeeding beyond infancy can be just as sweet, just as beneficial, and a lot more flexible.Feeding sessions tend to space out, become shorter, and shift to times of connection—like bedtime, nap time, or moments of comfort. It often feels less demanding and more relaxed, which can be a refreshing shift after those intense newborn months. And even though your toddler might be running around and eating solids, nursing can still be their safe place.
For many families, it becomes less about nutrition and more about regulation, bonding, and routine. It’s completely normal to keep breastfeeding until it no longer works for one or both of you. And if you're not sure what that looks like, you're allowed to take it one day (or one feed) at a time.
What If You’re Pregnant and Still Nursing?
Another common reason moms consider weaning is pregnancy. And yes, you can safely continue nursing while pregnant—though every body and baby is different, and it’s helpful to have support as your needs shift.
Some moms experience nipple sensitivity or aversions that make nursing feel uncomfortable, while others keep going through the whole pregnancy without issue. Your milk supply may dip (especially in the second trimester), but many babies adjust by nursing for comfort rather than nutrition. And if you're considering tandem nursing, we can help you prepare for that, too.
Sometimes nursing during pregnancy becomes part of how your older baby copes with all the change. And sometimes, it’s the moment you know it’s time to start weaning—either is okay.
You Don’t Have to Decide Alone
Whether you have a hard stop date or you’re just thinking about weaning, we’re here to help.
There’s no “right” way to end a breastfeeding journey—only what feels right for you and your baby. If you’re unsure, overwhelmed, or even grieving the idea of weaning, you’re not alone in that either. Sometimes you just need to talk it through with someone who gets it and can offer guidance without pressure.
💛 Book a virtual or in-person consult here, and let’s talk through what weaning—or continued breastfeeding—can look like for you and your baby.
Whether you're done next month, next year, or not sure at all—you’re doing it right.